Dating Your Husband

"Love is like a friendship caught on fire. In the beginning a flame, very pretty, often hot and fierce, but still only light and flickering. As love grows older, our hearts mature and our love becomes as coals, deep-burning and unquenchable." -Bruce Lee

This quote is so powerful and stands true in so many relationships. Sometimes we fall into our daily patterns and we let our fire fade. Don't let it! I'm not saying we fall out of love, we just forget to keep the passion alive and our spirit high. Date your spouse and keep dating your spouse, it's one of the many things you can do to keep that fire burning. 

Get ready separately from each other. You see each other every day but treat tonight like you're still trying to make your best impression. Tweeze the eyebrows, shave the legs. Impress him! (And vice versa to whoever is reading) It'll be like falling in love all over again when you see each other both looking your best. 

New, new, new. Emotions, experiences, everything was new when you first began dating! You need to continue to add something new to your relationship so you don't get bored of routine. When I say try something new, I don't mean to go jump out of airplanes together. It doesn't have to be expensive or outside of your comfort zone. You can take classes together (cooking, dancing, photography) or try the new restaurant that just opened in town. You could join meet up groups together, or even just switch up your perfume.

Physical activities are great for making relationships feel happy and healthy. You know how exercise boosts your body's endorphins? Well do those activities together and you both will feel great afterward. I'm talking about going on bike rides together or taking your family to a park to walk around! 

The "what" isn't as important as making the effort to do it! If you can make this a habit, your love truly will become like those burning coals, deep-burning and unquenchable!

Planning Romantic Date Nights At Home

So I recently saw a video from a famous British vlogger; he surprised his wife with a special date night at home. They had a baby monitor app so they could keep an eye on their baby. He also rented a blow-up PUB with different types of alcohol. There were even bar snacks like peanuts and bar games such as pong or cards. The couple looked they were having the time of their life! (See link to the video below) So I'm not saying you have to go as far as renting a blow-up pub or making a custom bar BUT I am saying that it is easy to bring date night home. To make it easier, I've listed some great ideas for the perfect night.

The most important thing to remember is to have FUN! No one knows your partner better than you do so it's important to think about what you enjoy doing together. 

1. Watch a movie together.

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When I say watch a movie together, I mean really watch it. Don't just watch tv together or multitask while you watch (work on the laptop, text friends). I want you to go to the store and buy some popcorn and candy. Treat yourselves for the night. Then, turn out all the lights and let the night play out. This is a date night that does not require a lot of planning but its fun, its simple, and its great for couples who are parents and don't have the time to go out or plan far in advance. Another fun idea is to re-watch the first movie you ever saw together. Or one of your favorites from high school!

2. Cook a fancy meal together.

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Photo by Kharichkina/iStock / Getty Images

It's a date that stays at home but allows you and your spouse to have a fun, team building experience together. You will need to decide on what you want to eat. You can choose something you both love and know how to cook or you can be bold and try something you've never cooked before. I suggest the latter because it's more exciting and the anticipation and appreciation will be that much more worth it when you get to eat.

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3. DIY projects

This can be anything you want it to be. There are so many fun and creative projects out there on the internet. All you have to do is look. Again, you know your partner better than anyone else. And date night is all about reconnecting with your significant other. So do they love crafty fun? Join them. It can be spontaneous, it can be your idea. Either way, crafting together can be fun for the both of you. Since this month is, in fact, October, why don't you carve pumpkins together?? And then! You can bake the pumpkin seeds to enjoy while watching a movie!

Wow, I think you've got your next date.

4. Game Night.

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This can involve other couples or families as well. It's not your typical date night it is fun and brings the two of you together. You can use your power couple skills to try and beat everyone else but just a warning: I'm sure everyone else will have the same mentality.

5. Unbox Love

You could rent an expensive blow-up pub OR you could subscribe to our box subscription for a significantly lower cost. All I'm saying is that our Date Night boxes include a variety of fun for you and your partner. And half the fun is the surprise as you never know what might be next. There are cool products, snacks, games, and crafty projects for the two of you to enjoy together. We do the planning for you. It's date nights made simple. 

Also if you'd like to watch the cute video of the blow up Pub, here it is: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QcuBt5qVFEA

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Meet the Dating Divas!

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The Dating Divas are a team dedicated to saving marriages, one date at a time and they are oh so good at it! We both believe in taking a proactive approach to investing in your relationship which is why we have become referral partners!

Who are they? They are an online community where spouses can read up on creative date ideas, shop for inexpensive must-have products, interact with other members in the community and more. Basically, every Monday they offer a cool date for the upcoming weekend and throughout the week share advice and other ideas.

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They don’t just write about dates. They cover topics of gifts, parties, anniversaries, holidays, and how to save a marriage. They also share their favorite everyday products for those of you who are interested in new face wash or moisturizer! It's fun and entertaining to navigate around the site and read the articles! You can hear their personality in their writing and its bubbly and makes you happy!

Since we are a resource to helping strengthen marriages, they wrote an article about us and our monthly subscriptions and included a special coupon! You can check out what they had to say here: http://tiny.cc/2b7yn

 

6 Ideas for the Perfect Surprise for Your Spouse

Any little surprise can keep that love alive and that fire burning. Surprises remind your partner of your affection for them and they can spice up any relationship. When was the last time you surprised your spouse? We came up with some of our favorite ways to surprise and be surprised that you can use.

1. Tickets

What is his favorite sports game? What is her favorite band? Any event that you both might enjoy is the perfect gift for your partner. If your spouse has had a rough day at work or a long and stressful week, you can cheer them up and turn that frown upside down with a pair of tickets. Or for an even bigger surprise, you can make sure that he or she has nothing going on and bring them directly to their favorite event!

 

2. Something They Love That They Know You Don’t

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This one is simple. Nothing says “I love you” more than to give your partner something they love that you don’t. Relationships have flaws and we understand that sometimes we don’t see eye to eye with each other. This is a surprise that can really help strengthen your relationship because it shows that you are willing to put your spouse first sometimes even though you may not enjoy or agree with what it is.

 

3. Dinner

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The best part about surprises is that they don’t have to be over the top. It could be as simple as making your spouse’s favorite meal before they get home! They would love the surprise of walking through the door, only to see a home cooked meal and your smiling face.

 

4. A Massage

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This is one is free! You could be watching a movie or sitting together after dinner and you could impress your spouse with an intimate and relaxing shoulder massage.

 

5. Visit Their Work With Lunch!

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Visiting your spouse at work even for a brief minute to say “hi” and to drop off their lunch shows that you took time out of your day to see them and also it reminds them of your support!

 

6. Unbox Love!

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That’s right! It’s the date that comes every month. Sometimes we don’t have time for that special night with that special someone. It’s simple and it doesn’t break your bank. It’s the monthly surprise that you and your spouse can enjoy together.

 

Time Management For Marital Bliss

Do you ever feel like you just don't have enough time in a day to get things done, never mind making time for your marriage? If you are like most stressed out couples, it can be hard to keep so many balls in the air without feeling exhausted.  

There was a time when we were feeling overwhelmed and needed to create a better system to enjoy a date night with our husband or wife.  We found that when we sat down for some much-needed bonding with each other, we could only think about our to-do list. We could not enjoy date night. We knew something needed to change and made the changes below in our lives to create space for each other.  We hope this helps you as much as it has helped us.

1. Meal Planning:

When you meal plan you spend less money and time at the grocery store. The best way to expedite this is to join a service such as Real Plans. We use them and love their customization and ease of use.

2. Fridge Planner and Grocery List:

If you don’t like the idea of someone else planning your meals you can do it yourself.  We have organized a grocery list for you and included a downloadable meal planner can be hung on your refrigerator.  There are also some time saving tips in the kitchen here as well: http://www.unboxlove.com/blog/timesaving

3. Laundry:

Only do Laundry on certain days. It is okay let the laundry pile up for a few days. If you commit to doing laundry on Sunday morning and Wednesday night (just an example and what works with our family), you will find that the stress of the everyday laundry game seems to disappear.

4. Bins, Bins and More Bins:

If you have small children, you need lots of containers around. Just have them in all of the primary bedrooms and living areas. This will make cleanup much easier. You will save so much time by collecting toys in bins than reorganizing daily to have the same set of toys back on the floor the next day.

5. Unbox love date night box:

I know we are biased to this one, but we promise even if it were not our company we would include it here. We plan it all! No thinking or preparation on your part. Just open the box and get your date on! How often have you and your spouse decided you were too tired to go out and turned the TV on. Poof- Date Night was done- conversation over…bonding time-not that night! We are here for you. All you have to do is open the box and be ready to laugh, love and connect!

We hope you find this list useful. Let us know what other time-saving tips you use.

How To Navigate Back To School and Maintain Marital Bliss

Just like the change in season brings new colors, order, and structure to nature it does the same for our homes. Every time there is a significant shift such as back to school we are experiencing a change in season at home. This transition can be difficult, or it can flow naturally depending on how well we prepare. 

At Unbox it is our mission to cultivate healthy marriages, and in doing so, we want to provide our audience some simple guidelines we follow to help the different changes in season. 

First, we want you to take one last deep breath and appreciate the quality time that was emphasized during the summer months. The warm sun brings this lighter feel to each day.  Spending more hours together as a family fills our lives with memories to last our lifetime. 

However, just like mother nature prepares for winter with the shedding of leaves and the brisk air we must prepare as well.

To get ready, we recommend you hold a change of season family meeting. This is similar to a regular family meeting but this time include topics such as:

Who will drop off the kids? Pick up the kids?
What sports or activities will the kids sign up for? 
What does time for our marriage look like with our busier schedules?
What does self-care look like for mom and dad, so they are well rested and present for the children?
Where will we spend the holidays?
Upcoming business travel?
Upcoming time off?
What days are the children off?
Is our babysitter still available when we need help with the kids?
What family activities do we have planned for fall and winter?

Often we assume that our spouse knows all the answers to the above questions because well we have been doing this for years. However, every year brings change, and we can not assume that we are all on the same page. The best way to get on the same page is to.... well... get on the same page. Together as a family discuss what our expectations are so when the situations come up you have already considered the plan ahead of time, and there will be no hurt feelings or miscommunications about what is expected of each other.

One of the most important parts to note about this plan is self-care for mom and dad. Back to school brings back a laundry list of to-dos for both parents. From birthday parties to school events, sports, and homework; little time is left to think about mom and dad. How do they keep their connection alive when all the focus seems to shift entirely towards the children. 

It is for this reason that we exist because self-care can be a game together where you can laugh and play with your partner.  It can also be a yoga class, and Sunday Football; just don't forget to connect.  Your love is the thread that keeps the family together if it goes uncared for it can be the same thread that unravels it. 

We look forward to hearing how you prepare for this new season. What would you add to our list? 

Why Camping is the Perfect Dating Getaway

If you are like me and camped as a kid, you can remember all the fun times you had with your family sleeping in tents, making smores and exploring the great outdoors. Now that I am an adult and go camping myself with my husband and daughter I have a different appreciation for camping.

 

I am often asked why do you go camping? Don't you prefer to stay in a hotel? Yes, but not when my intention is to go camping. Camping removes all of the clutter, and all that is left are the few bare essentials you can pack into your car.  The act of living for two days or more with minimal belongings facilitates gratitude for what is truly important in life. On my last camping trip I realized to survive, we need very little, but we could not live without the love and laughs we share with our family.

 

So what scares people about camping? It is probably all of the prep before you head out and once you arrive at the camp ground. When we prep for our trip I make lists of clothes we will wear, the food we will eat, activities we look to do during the day and of course games and smores for our night time family gathering by an open fire.

 

Sometimes there is too much to think about, and I tend always to forget something even if I make a list and check it twice. Given the stress of prep and potential entertainment the Unbox team, whom all love to camp, are going to carry a little of that burden and introduce a camping box. The box comes with games, smores like you have never had, and ways for mom and dad to connect one on one.

 

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Interested in taking a prepared activity night with you on your camping trip? Click here to purchase your Camping box

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Anniversary Ideas to Dazzle your Partner!

Summer isn’t just wedding season, it’s Anniversary season too! And why not do something unique and fun this anniversary. Skip the boring dinner date and try one of these!

 

1) Take turns planning anniversaries! Every other year you get to plan the activities and every other year you get to sit back and enjoy your partners plans! Give it a try- it’s great fun!

 

2) Go on an adventure! Dare to try something you’ve never done before. Hot Air balloon ride, horse ride in the mountains, dinner and drinks on a boat… Look around your area with an open mind and you will find many opportunities of fun things you’ve never tried.

 

3) Re-create a special event! Perhaps you could go back to the place where you first met, or to where you had your first date. Re-create your first kiss. Re-peat the proposal and tell them you would do it all over again. Visit a special place where you’ve made some great past memories. And when you are there, share and remember what it felt like.

 

4) Create a puzzle for your partner to solve! Ideas could range from a scavenger hunt that leads her to a thoughtful gift or leads him to a bedroom. You could create a crossword puzzle that includes words about each other and your marriage, where you met, the special song from your wedding, etc. Maybe include clues in the puzzle as to what you have planned for your anniversary! (Crossword makers are easily found online)

 

5) Art! Go to one of the local DIY Art businesses that will help you create pottery or make a painting. Embrace the artist in you and create something cool for your house that will be a reminder of your awesome anniversary date. (Some of these places include beverages and even dinner.) And if you can’t find a place, buy some supplies and take advantage of youtube-how-tos!

 

6) Get outta town! Okay this one might take a little planning, especially if kids are involved. Live in the country? Schedule a trip to a high-end hotel in the city. Live in the city? Book a B&B in the country!

 

7) Reminisce! Get out the photos of your wedding. Watch the video if you have one. Share things that happened that weekend that you either may have forgotten or that you never shared before. Re-live the special moments, repeat your wedding vows and share that love again.

 

8) Plan a mystery day for your spouse! Each new destination could be a surprise. Brunch here, road-trip there, shopping here, beach or lake next, quiet dinner for 2, concert and dancing, a stop at the comedy club… The possibilities are endless. Take some time to plan and you won’t regret it!

 

9)  Write you partner a love note and then turn it into a song! Sing it to them on your anniversary! Okay if you are not destined for American Idol, you could write them a poem and read it to them. Or just place random love notes around that they will find throughout their day. (On the mirror, in their bag, on the steering wheel, in the fridge… you get the idea.)

 

10) Unforgettable Picnic! Rent your partners favorite vehicle and go for a ride. Rent a jeep and head for the hills. Rent a convertible and hit the highway. Pack an awesome picnic lunch and some beverages. Don’t forget the blanket and perhaps a couple pillows!

 

11) Head to the spa! Get a couple’s massage. Each of you pick out your favorite treatments. It’s okay to relax on your anniversary too, as you both deserve it!

 

12) Volunteer together! There are many opportunities to help out in the community. All are rewarding, and some can be pretty fun too!

 

13) Make your own romantic dinner! Not sure what to make or even how to make it? Take advantage of the new companies that send you all the ingredients for a great meal to be prepared at home. (Plated, Blue Apron etc.) Be sure to place your order a couple weeks in advance.

 

14) Get competitive! Play tennis, racquetball, golf. Try chess or other board games. Make some bets on the Wii. Be sure the winner gets a kiss.

 

15) Create a keepsake box! Put reminders of your date in it and add to it every year. (items, pictures, notes). It won’t mean much for a few years, but trust us, 10 or 20 years from now you will love looking back through it!

 

Finally, whatever you decide to do, either take some selfies or get someone to take pictures of you. Get a picture frame that holds several pictures and give it to them a week later. They will love you for your efforts. And remember, these things can also be done any time throughout the year. Invest in your relationship and it will make all the difference in the world!

What Makes A Good Date Night After You Are Married

Funny how once we get married and have kids dating takes a back seat. It shouldn’t, and we swear that it won’t, but for most of us, the truth is that it does. So how do we get back to dating when our lives are busy?

 

Let's just pause for a minute and acknowledge that, yes, we are swamped. We hear you; we are living in your shoes. We created this brand from that understanding.

 

Does this sound like your day, week... year:

 

Get up early, make breakfast, pack lunches, dress the kids, dress ourselves, drive the kids to school, rush to work, work a full day, drive home pick up the kids from school.  Now it is time to make dinner, eat, take baths and get ready for bed … AND do it all over again.

 

Just in case you were wondering- we do realize that was a mouthful of a run on sentence but our lives are a mouthful of a run on sentence.

 

So how do we make time for dating with our very hectic lives? Is this possible? The truth is... YES!! You can still date and, honestly, need to if you are going to keep the love alive for 25+ years.

 

Here are a few tips and tricks on how to do it:

 

1.    Don't plan your date on a Friday night.

 

My first tip is to skip the Friday night date night (when possible).  On Friday's you have not had a chance to recover from the week.  A date on a Friday is not as relaxed as you would want it to be to connect with your spouse.

 

Not that weddings count as dates, but my husband and I attended a wedding on a Friday, and all of the couples with kids were yawning and wondering how we would make it through the night. This is because Friday’s after a long week are tough.

 

Saturdays you can sleep in (unless you have very small children) hang in there; I promise sleeping past 6:30 is in your future.  Saturday’s there are practically no emails, so you’re in a better mood. On a Saturday you don't have 30 minutes between work and a date so you can spend some time pampering yourself to look and feel great for date night (again I get it, small children, "me-time" is not far off - I promise)

 

2. Don’t discuss bills, or problems

Please don't laundry list bills, or discuss family issues and just about anything that is bothering you. That is what family meetings are for (link to post).  Date nights are for connecting, not fighting. Another reason to have date night on a Saturday is that you already discussed your issues that morning during family meeting time, so it is no longer in the brain.

 

3. Plan a Stay-date

My last advice and I promise this I do this in real life; we just stay home. My husband and I have created a home that we love. We are extremely social people, but we just love our home. Our home brings us peace and the perfect setting for great conversation, playing games, or just hanging out. Connecting without needing to spend a fortune is why we love Unbox. It makes dating simple, fun and affordable.

 

Dating my husband keeps our marriage strong and gives us something to laugh about during the week. Do you have any dating tips?

 

 

 

 

Kacee Payne + Unbox Love

We are so happy to have been able to work with Kacee Payne from Keek Photography this past week! Kacee did a photo shoot with a couple who tried Unbox Love for their first time. Seeing their initial reactions to the box was so rewarding, we are so happy we can give couples that special one on one time everyone needs!

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Kacee Payne is a photographer from Utah, she is married and has two young boys. She is passionate about photography, and it shows through her work. We love Kacee’s work, particularly because she works with couples. She is able to capture everything in her photos from the emotions of engagements to the joy of families.  

 

 

Kacee currently posts her photos to her Instagram, Facebook, and website, where you can see what spectacular work she does. Below are some of the wonderful pictures she took with a couple trying out Unbox Love for the first time!

 

 

 


 

 

What Is A Family Meeting: Template and Instructions

When I first heard of a family meeting my initial reaction was to question the whole thing. "So you want me to ask my husband to have meetings where we discuss our family like a business?" ... HMMM

 

What do I do when he laughs at me for even bringing this up? Well, newsflash. He did not laugh because he has a very business brain he was all for it. I did not mention right away that we would be coming up with a family mission statement too.

 

So how do you plan a family meeting and what does it look like.

 

Below I have included a real sample of what our family meeting agenda looks like. I did not make it up for the blog; this is what we do about twice a month on Saturday mornings.

 

For your first meeting, you want to update the template below to meet what makes sense for your family. You want to be prepared and take it seriously just like you would for any other meeting.  You also want to have an idea of what your mission statement should be but don't write it all out yourself. The mission statement should be a joint effort so that it holds meaning for the entire family.

 

Step One: Mission Statement

 

Family Mission Statement:

Say it out loud when you start your family meeting. This encourages engagement, and you will probably not get it right the first time. We have edited ours every time we have a meeting. It is a work in progress, but like all mission statements, there will come a time where it is perfect, and the whole family will know it and live by it. It will be your north star.

 

We are committed to set examples of love, character, and fun. By building our community and our home, we welcome all who enter our lives.

We make this our daily reality through:

•    Balancing life and work

•    Finding a way to make a difference

•    Lessening our impact on the environment

•    Living into our top priorities of leadership, living with passion, compassion, and fun.

•    Creating a home environment that is a place full of great examples, laughter, understanding, and patience.

•    Encouraging and supporting each other by listening, connecting, and making time for each other.

•    Treating each other with love and expecting the best of each other.

 

Step Two: Sync Calendars

 

Once we review our mission statement, we move to sync calendars. Most families have one or both spouses traveling consistently. Taking the time to sync calendars helps to prevent potential calendar blunders.

 

Sit with your planners or computers open to write upcoming travel for each partner. Don't just write it down on paper have calendars ready. The likelihood of such paper making it to a calendar later is slim and will make this exercise pointless.

 

What to include in your synced calendars:

o    Upcoming Travel

o    Upcoming Babysitter Needs

o    Upcoming Events for your children

o    Upcoming Parties or invites

o    Possible Weekend ideas

o    Date night

o    Personal time (for each spouse)

 

Step Three: Family Review and Retrospective:

This one is my favorite because it helps to avoid fights. We are all human and things bother us, and they usually bother us a little, and it begins to escalate until it bothers us a lot.  If we have a safe space to discuss the little things, we can avoid the big ones.

What to review:

o    What worked well in our family this week? 

o    What went wrong in our family this week?

•    Snacks

•    Cookies

•    Pie

•    Home made power bars

(I left our list in because it does not have to be big things. My husband loves snacks especially cookies. When I forget to get cookies, he feels like I only pick up what I like at the grocery store and forget about him. I know he can go too but that point we all want to feel noticed. So include the little things so that we don't create big things in our relationships)

 

o    What will we work on this coming week?

 

Step Four: Money

Discussing money can be tough for many couples, but it is so important. When we are clear about our finances, there are so many headaches we can avoid. 

 

Money

o    Savings

o    Taxes

o    New cell phone plan

o    Cutting Dish

o    Life Insurance

o    Upcoming big bills

o    Home Improvements?

 

Fifth part: Requests.

 

This is just where the meeting is an open forum and everyone can add to the list including the kids. Our daughter is three and she is usually in the same room with us when we have our meeting. At this point, we bring her close and ask her what she would like to add. It is usually something like gummies or a dolly. I think it is good to include kids. They need to see all sides of mom and dad and how what they do to work on a healthy relationship.

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Mom

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We usually close the meeting with a big family hug and a feeling that we are on the right track. I can't tell you what a difference family meetings have made in our lives, and I hope that it does the same in yours.

 

Want to try and create your family meeting? Click here to download our template.

How To Plan an Amazing Date Night Without Hiring a Sitter

Planning a date night with small children can be challenging and expensive. Not only do you have to splurge for your evening out but you also have to have enough money to pay for the sitter, and if you have multiple kids; well that number just went up. UGH!! So how do parents of young children keep the love alive? Can it be done? Well… the short answer is YES!!

 

Here are some ideas to get your date on with your hubby or wife.

 

Anniversary Day, Date Night

The concept is relatively straightforward, if you were married September 10th, then every month on or around the 10thof that month is date night. This way you are both clear, this week is the 10th after the kids go to bed we will grab a game, or activity we can do together and connect.  (words game and activity will link to a box subscription)

 

Family Date Night

Involve the kids! Yes, I know, how can we call it date night?  It honestly is so much fun and does end up feeling like a date.  

Here is how we do it; sometimes my husband and I will order in, pour some wine (she gets juice or water) and we have a dance party.  It is so much fun we all end up belly laughing and although this can sometimes be a very short date night the point is quality and deep connection.

 

The More the Merrier, Date Night

Make it a group date night. Often when we want to have a date night but don’t want to splurge for a sitter, we have friends over, and the kids watch a movie while the parents are in an adjacent room playing cards, chatting and enjoying couples night out just like our days before the little ones.

 

Breakfast, Date Night?

Sometimes the best date nights happen early in the morning. My husband and I will plan to get up early on Saturday or Sunday mornings and have breakfast together before our child is up. We get to catch up, laugh and connect over a warm meal before the day actually begins.

 

Grandparent Drop-off, Date Night (Okay it's cheating but counts if we are not paying for a babysitter)

Grandparent sleepovers are the best for date night with no sitter if you are lucky to have grandparents nearby as we do. Well, nothing beats the love and bonding the kids get to enjoy as well as the quality time you can spend with your significant other.

 

Dating your husband or wife involves some planning, but it is absolutely worth it. The strength of the marriage grows as your family grows and we need to take the time to reflect on our days together to create more of those moments. Every marriage has an emotional ATM that we need to make consistent deposits too. When this emotional bank account is full, we can withdraw from it on days that we may not be feeling as connected. This leads to more patience, greater appreciation and more love! So pick one or more of these ideas and go for it!

 

-Ana from the Unbox Love Team 

Get Your Massage On!

Let's put your new Massager and Plant Life Oil to use!

Here is a short video on the use of a 4-point massager.

If either of you have sore muscles in your back, neck, shoulders, calves or feet, trigger point techniques can really help release the tension. There are hundreds of trigger points throughout the body, and everyone can develop them in different locations. We have selected the most common location for this video (upper back and neck area) but you can find videos on any location if desired. While this video does not use a tool, hands get tired! So use your massager in the same way!

Baking Clay Ideas

We hope you are enjoying your date! Need some ideas about what to make? Check out these! How about starting with how to make a pinch pot.

What about some cool coasters? You can use cookie cutters or even lids to shape your ornament. A knife or toothpicks are good for carving shapes or words.

Some ornaments would be fun. Use anything with texture to add a pattern to your creation. Use a screwdriver to poke a hole for hanging. If you have a hot glue gun or super glue, use your magnets and put 'em on the fridge!

Rolling your clay and making a round pot is a fun challenge. You can share colors on this one as well.

We hope you make something cool! Share your creations using #unboxlove. Or maybe write about it in your Together Journal!  Thanks for being awesome!

Together Puzzles!

We hope you are enjoying your Ghiradelli Hot Chocolate & Rocky Mountain made pretzel sticks!

So how frustrating are those silly puzzles anyway? Check out these videos for some help. We will start with the easiest puzzle and an Unbox Love family member: 9 year old Cami!

Next are 3 silent films arranged from (easier to hardest) that show you how to solve the last 3 puzzles. Work together and good luck! And if you created an awesome crossword with your game of xoomcubes, post it using #unboxlove! Be sure to remember to share your Love Cards with each other throughout this week! From all of us at Unbox Love, Happy New Year!

Top 10 Ways To Impress Your Partner: Part 2

Continued from part 1- The top 5 ways to impress your partner!

#5- Pick them up a gift card and then leave them trail of sticky notes to find it, scavenger hunt style!

#4- Tonight in bed (or while watching TV) grab their hand and give them a 10 minute forearm/hand/finger massage! Then switch arms. They will love it!

#3- Create 3 Coupons for your love on to use. Ideas: Free neck massage/ Do all the dishes/ Clean the room of your choice/ Weekend sleep-in/ Kid free time. Then place them in their work bag or somewhere they will secretly find them.

#2- Secretly set a reminder on their phone that you love them and that you are counting the minutes until you can see them again!

#1- When you are with them, be with them. Look them in the eye. Listen. Love them for who they are and for all they are! If you do, they'll do the same for you!

Timesaving Tips!

Hello! Hope you enjoyed the time saving tips and recipe card from this month's date. Below are the links to the documents that will help make your life easier!

The Excel Grocery List has 2 tabs - a full page and a 4-page. Edit as you wish.

Print and place the fridge planner in a magnetic frame with a glass front and stick it on the fridge. A dry erase marker makes it easy to create/adjust a menu each week. 

Here are three additional tips that save time in the kitchen.

-Have a designated area on the counter for "cups in use." If a cup is in that area, someone is still planning on using it.

-While preparing a meal, keep a big bowl on the counter. Put all your chopping, cutting and peeling discards into it. Then make one trip to the garbage instead of 10.

-Keep an expired credit card or gift card at the sink to scrape baked food from pans and glassware.

If you have any time-saving tips, please add them to the comments below!

Next Month's Tips: How To Reduce Holiday Stress!

 

 

Top 10 FUN Ways To Impress Your Partner! Part 1

Looking for fun new ways to let your partner know you love them. Check these out!

#10- When your partner gets in the shower, sneak in the bathroom and write a short love note on the mirror in dry erase marker!

#9- Secretly quick clean the interior of their vehicle! Pick up the trash, wipe the dashboard, clean the windows, etc. Then leave them a piece of candy on the seat!

#8- Place a note inside their pillowcase before bedtime! Perhaps something like: Thanks for being awesome and for all the extra things you do to make our lives better! Love U! xoxo

#7- Whisper in their ear how your heart skipped a beat the first time you met. Share some small detail about that day that they may not remember.

#6- Collect some leaves and spell out I (HEART) You! on the front lawn! Indoor option: Spell it out in candies on the kitchen table or on the bed!

To check out the top 5 ways, come back next week!

Over... Next!

It’s Over, What’s Next?

 

Have you ever had a big event in your life that was awesome, but left you feeling depressed because it was over?

 

Conversely, have you ever had something happen between you and your partner that left you feeling angry, unappreciated or resentful?

 

Although very different, both of these scenarios can have a negative impact on you and those around you. So what’s one to do? I suggest taking the advice of 94 year-old Norman Lear, famed producer of shows such as All in the Family, Good Times and The Jeffersons.

 

During his recent appearance on NPR’s, Wait Wait Don’t Tell Me!, Norman shared advice centered around 2 simple words: Over and Next.  “When something is over, it is over. And we are on to next.” he stated. What great advice that can make a huge impact on your mindset and on the quality of your everyday life!

 

Without going into detail, I once carelessly ruined a new outfit my wife bought to wear that afternoon at a friends wedding. Although disappointed for a moment, my wife considered it over and we went on to have a great time at the wedding. How awesome on her part!

 

When we returned from our grand family vacation to Florida, we were all sad that it was Over. But we decided to enjoy today and anticipate all the great things that were coming Next!

 

Mr. Lear went on to say that “If there were to be a hammock in the middle between Over and Next, that would be what is meant by living in the moment.”

 

Consider this next time you are holding a grudge, or are a bit sad of something being over. Look to Next and enjoy this moment!